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IMPARIAMO A VOLERCI BENE, ci aiuta la psicologa ROSSELLA BALZANO

Buongiorno a tutte! In questo periodo di quarantena ognuna di noi ha dovuto affrontare situazioni davvero complicate, spesso da sola. Ci siamo chieste come affrontare le sfide quotidiane  in modo positivo e come ricaricarci nei momenti di maggiore sconforto!

 

Per fare questo ci siamo armate delle migliori strategie grazie alla  nostra energetica psicologa e mamma tuttofare, Rossella BALZANO!

 

L’argomento specifico in cui l’abbiamo coinvolta oggi, dato questo periodo di confinamento lungo ed emotivamente carico per tutti noi è COME IMPARARE A VOLERSI BENE.

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ROSSELLA, PUOI SPIEGARCI A GRANDI LINEE COSA SIGNIFICA “VOLERSI BENE”?

 

Volersi bene significa mettersi in gioco, superare i propri limiti per andare incontro a quelli dell’altro, chiedere scusa quando si commette un errore.

 

Per capire meglio è più facile partire dagli altri.

 

Racconto sempre il dilemma dei porcospini di Schopenhauer (attualissimo in tempi di distanziamento sociale). Lo conosci?

 

NO, RACCONTA!

 

Una compagnia di porcospini, in una fredda giornata d’inverno, si strinsero vicini, per proteggersi, col calore reciproco, dal rimanere assiderati. Ben presto, però, sentirono il dolore delle spine reciproche; il dolore li costrinse ad allontanarsi di nuovo l’uno dall’altro. Freddo o dolore? Questo dilemma durò finché non ebbero trovato una moderata distanza reciproca, che rappresentava per loro la migliore posizione.”

 

Così anche noi esseri umani abbiamo bisogno di trovare una giusta misura nella costruzione dei rapporti affettivi e sociali e comportarci in un determinato modo.

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E COME SI APPLICA QUESTO PRINCIPIO VERSO NOI STESSI??

 

Innanzitutto dobbiamo imparare a capirci! Siamo la persona con cui passiamo la maggior parte del nostro tempo. La possibilità di avere una vita gratificante dipende da NOI. Siamo proprio sicuri di conoscerci?

 

A COSA TI RIFERISCI IN PARTICOLARE?

 

Parlo di VALORI.

 

I valori sono alla base di ogni scelta che facciamo, guidano le nostre emozioni e influenzano il nostro livello di soddisfazione. Sono il nostro centro, il punto di partenza da cui parte il nostro senso di sicurezza, autostima, potere ed efficacia personale.

 

Esistono dei valori che sono SANI, che non cambiano del tempo e ci portano ad essere persone migliori ed invece valori NON-SANI, che mutano nel tempo, non ci danno certezze e ci portano a denigrare noi stessi o gli altri.

 

MI FAI UN ESEMPIO DI VALORE NON SANO?

Se il nostro valore di riferimento è la nostra relazione, la nostra sicurezza dipenderà da come andranno le cose con il nostro partner, e tutto quello che può compromettere la relazione sarà valutato come un pericolo alla nostra stessa vita. Se il nostro valore è più centrato sul voler bene a noi stessi, la nostra tranquillità non dipenderà da una terza persona ma solo da noi. ( vedi qui)

 

E’ UN MOMENTO IN CUI TANTE PERSONE SI TROVANO A STARE TANTO DA SOLE. QUANTO E’ IMPORTANTE SAPER STARE DA SOLI??

 

Importantissimo!! Per molti stare soli è difficile perché causa di ansia o sofferenza. Un po’ per noia o perché siamo obbligati a confrontarci con i nostri pensieri più intimi. Si vive quel senso di isolamento come solitudine senza saper affrontare queste sensazioni.

 

Ma c’è differenza tra essere soli e sentirsi soli. Passare del tempo in compagnia di noi stessi soltanto, senza altre persone intorno, è diverso dal senso interiore di profonda solitudine, dolorosa e totalizzante.

Si può essere soli e felici, oppure essere soli e sentirsi soli. Dipende dall’idea che tu ti fai dello stare da solo” ! Sostiene uno Psicoterapeuta

 

Un esercizio utile è concedersi 10-15 minuti al giorno. Spegnendo la tv, il cellulare, e le distrazioni, e restando soli con i nostri pensieri e emozioni, che possiamo riportare su un quadernino.

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CHE INSEGNAMENTO POSSIAMO TRARRE DAL LOCK DOWN?

Questo periodo per certi versi è stato (ed è) preziosissimo!! Possiamo trarne moltissimi spunti.

Innanzitutto che siamo molto più forti e adattabili di quanto avremmo mai immaginato… chi avrebbe creduto 2 mesi fa che saremmo stati capaci di tanto sacrificio?

Abbiamo riscoperto tutto quello che finora avevamo dato per scontato: la libertà, la famiglia, le piccole cose di ogni giorno. Ci siamo cimentati in cucina, in piccoli hobbies che avevamo sempre rimandato…

Ma soprattutto, abbiamo rivalutato l’importanza del contatto umano!!!

IN CONCLUSIONE, POSSIAMO INVECE CHIEDERTI DEI CONSIGLI CONCRETI PER VOLERCI Più BENE?

Un punto fondamentale è non soffermarsi su ciò che non puoi cambiare.

Concentra i tuoi sforzi e le tue energie solo sulle cose che puoi modificare!!

Ad esempio, è inutile continuare a rimuginare sulle vacanze negli Stati Uniti di quest’estate che sono saltate …è  più utile pensare a un piano B.

Poi… Fai un elenco delle cose che ti piacciono di te.

Cosa ti piace di te? Fai un elenco scritto da rileggere tutte le volte in cui ti senti giù di morale, in cui credi di aver sbagliato qualcosa, mi raccomando non perderlo!!!

E Rispettati.

Può apparire scontato ma non lo è. Da animali sociali cercheremo sempre il consenso e l’approvazione dell’altro. Ma questo non vuol dire metterci in secondo piano. Non dare un messaggio contraddittorio: “RISPETTATI, IN MODO CHE GLI ALTRI POSSANO RISPETTARTI”.

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MI VERREBBE DA AGGIUNGERE, CURA ANCHE LA TUA PERSONA ESTETICAMENTE. CONCEDITI MASCHERE VISO, CAPELLI, TRUCCO… NON STARE SEMPRE IN PIGIAMA!! SPECIE ADESSO CHE SIAMO IN CASA POTREMMO AVERE LA TENTAZIONE DI LASCIARCI ANDARE E SAREBBE SBAGLIATO….

Senza dubbio… ho delle amiche (oltre che una madre) che mi riprendono prontamente quando non mi trucco! 😀

PENSO DI SAPERNE QUALCOSA ANCH’IO! GRAZIE MILLE PER QUESTO INTERVENTO, E’ STATA UNA CHIACCHIERATA DAVVERO INTERESSANTE E SPERIAMO DI RITROVARCI PRESTO ANCHE DAL VIVO! VUOI AGGIUNGERE UN COMMENTO FINALE PER CHI CI LEGGE?

Grazie a voi per questa intervista. Se posso dare un augurio, o meglio darci un augurio è che questo periodo nero possa servirci a valorizzare noi stessi e le nostre risorse. Siamo solo all’inizio della riscoperta delle nostre potenzialità!

ASSOLUTAMENTE, CE LO AUGURIAMO TUTTI.

MI RACCOMANDO, NON ESITATE A MANDARCI I VOSTRI COMMENTI, A FARCI SAPERE COSA VI HA INTERESSATO DI Più E QUALE ARGOMENTO VORRESTE AFFRONTARE CON NOI IN UNA PROSSIMA SESSIONE!!

E, OVVIAMENTE, SEGUITECI! Siamo sulle Ig TV di  italianstyle_lab e balzanorossellapsy 

 
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Life’s Work: An Interview with Michael Ovitz

s a cofounder of Creative Artists Agency, Ovitz revolutionized how big deals in film, TV, music, and corporate media were done from the 1970s through the 1990s. Following brief stints at Disney and his own mobile content start-up, he reset his career as an adviser in Silicon Valley.

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HBR: In your memoir, Who Is Michael Ovitz?, you say that agents are first and foremost sellers—of themselves and their clients. What makes a good salesman?

Ovitz: Sales can be done aggressively—a constant barrage—or with thought, more elegantly. We tried to sell based on the quality of the client and to make the presentation softly. But we were aggressive in that we would never stop. We wouldn’t take no for an answer. Selling was easier for us than for others because we would only sign talent we really believed in for the long term.

But when you were just starting out, how did you sell yourselves to those quality clients?

It was an uphill fight. We were young, so we had to differentiate. We could not perform like traditional agents—fielding calls and trying to sell clients on jobs. Our thesis from day one was that we would take clients’ dreams and put the projects together.

The strategies you used to turn CAA into a powerhouse sparked resentment. People have called you a bully, a villain, and worse. If you could do it again, what would you do differently?

At the time I thought being vulnerable was a sign of weakness and that any weak link would affect the business. We were the ones who got stuff done, and that meant we sometimes ran a little rough over people. We always had to be moving forward and winning. We had to have 100% market share, the number one book, the number one movie, the number one TV show. I discovered after the fact that we could have gotten just as big and still let a few others take some wins.

But the tactics worked.

Really well. I remember when we sold ER to a very unwilling NBC. They didn’t like the pilot, so we manipulated everything we could to get it to work. We got Warner Brothers to push hard. We got Steven Spielberg and Michael Crichton to make calls. We pushed from every angle. We believed in the show. But we ran over a lot of people at NBC to do it. And there was a cost associated with it, which I personally paid and would have preferred not to.

In your book, you call out betrayals by former colleagues and friends: Jim Moloney, Michael Eisner, and Ron Meyer. Why rehash those stories now? Are you trying to learn from the experience? Help others to do so?

I’m telling a story about lessons learned: things done right and things done terribly wrong. Each of those relationships went wrong for a different reason. One stayed wrong. One ended because the individual passed away. And one came back to life, which is pleasing. I’m at a place in my life where I can look back. As an investor and a consultant in Silicon Valley, I’m meeting the most brilliant young people and trying to give them advice, and the lessons they like are about the mistakes I’ve made as much as the successes.

You’ve been involved in so many high-stakes negotiations. What’s the key to a successful outcome?

You need to know where you want to end up before you engage. At CAA we spent hours on prep work for the larger negotiations. We did studies, readouts, role-playing—everything we could. But even in the smallest negotiation, we always wanted to know how the meeting would end before we walked in the door. How do you manipulate the scene to get what you want for your client but leave something on the table for the other side so that when they walk away, they feel happy?

But if your counterparts have their own ideal outcome and it’s different from yours, how do you reach an agreement?

That’s the fun part of negotiating. We had different ways of handling that. Sometimes when we were on the buy side, putting together a TV show package, someone would come in and quote us a fee for an actor that was not in line with the budget, and we’d say, “There’s nothing to respond to. We’re going to recast.” One time an agent asked for a client fee that was double what ours were getting, and we said, “You’re under-asking. You should get five times our clients’ fees added together.” The agent understood, and when we were done laughing, we got down to making a serious deal.

But strong-arming was a tactic you used, too.

When we had leverage, we used it. Take Jurassic Park. That package was developed at CAA. Michael Crichton pitched me the story. I gave the book to Steven Spielberg. He said he was in. So was Kathleen Kennedy, a producer. We controlled all the elements. So we had the ability to go to the first studio and say, “We have good news and bad news. The good news is that we have a movie based on a book by Michael Crichton that will be a best seller. It will be directed by the great Steven Spielberg and produced by the great Kathy Kennedy. You need no stars. We have three young cast members. The bad news is that we and the clients control it.” We asked for a partnership deal in which clients and studios were paid the same, dollar for dollar, and said they had one day to come back to us. It was said nicely, but it was as strong-arm as you could be. If they said no, we already had it backed up and sold at another company.

How did you know whether people would collaborate well?

In the Valley now, I deal with men and women who believe they’re unstoppable. In the entertainment business, people were just as spirited. But you could tell if they’d be collaborative by how they accepted suggestions. Look at Mark Zuckerberg. He’s not afraid to have brilliant people working for him who tell him what they think. When we put Ghostbusters together, Dan Aykroyd wrote it, but Bill Murray put his imprimatur on it, and [the director and producer] Ivan Reitman and [the late actor] Harold Ramis—may he rest in peace—added theirs. Understanding the creative process, doing our homework on the participants in a package—that gave us a sense of whether they could relate.

When projects took forever to get going, how did you have the patience and focus to keep at it?

It was strictly belief. Rain Man went through four directors in three years before we shot a foot of film, but the motor for that project was Dustin Hoffman. When a client wanted to achieve something, it made my job much easier. All these brilliant directors—Marty Brest, Steven Spielberg, Sydney Pollack—were trying to find a third act: positive change at the end of the movie. Finally Barry Levinson said, “There is no third act.” After talking it out, Dustin Hoffman agreed with him. It was an interesting creative moment. There were hours of discussion. Should Dustin as Raymond show some improvement? But with his type of autism, it had to stay the same. So we agreed to take that risk. The newspapers and daily trades predicted that the film would fail, the head of the studio would be fired, the clients would be angry, I would be fired. But lo and behold, it went out the first weekend at $6 million and did the same for the next 50 weekends and won four Academy Awards.

How do you know when risks are worth taking?

From age 17, when I got my first job at Universal Studios as a tour guide, I watched everything that came out on the big screen and every television show. I read every top 10 book, every script, notes on the scripts. I had subscriptions to several hundred magazines, which I would skim through. I was a student of popular culture, and my life was all about learning what people wanted to see. And then, as the ultimate fan boy, I did things I would want to see, too.

How did you manage your time?

It’s the same in any business. You could be a doctor, a lawyer, or a writer and an interviewer; an agent, an entrepreneur, or an Indian chief. Time is our most valuable commodity. I was obsessed with how to get more hours in the day. A client even gave me a 25-hour clock as a gag gift. One key to productivity and time management is responsiveness. At CAA we had a system where if you were asked a question by a colleague, you answered it; we kept notes on everything, and we shared information. We prioritized by the clients, the agent, the buyer who had the largest need. We returned every phone call by the end of the day, so you’d see people sitting in the office until 8:00 at night doing that. Also, honesty: If you do not have an answer for something, tell the client or buyer, “I don’t know.”

You had a family. How did that work for you personally?

Sometimes good; sometimes not so good. My wife and I were married when we were 21 years old. She helped me start CAA. She was a secretary, along with the wives of the other founding partners. We worked seven days a week. We came into the office at 7:00 AM and we’d leave at 11:00 PM. I didn’t have children until six years into CAA. Chris Ovitz, my first son, was a game changer for me. Having children is a giant responsibility, and I worked around it. I would leave CAA at 3:00, be on the phone in the car until I got to the John Thomas Dye School, watch one of my three kids in a sporting event while still making calls, congratulate them whether they won or lost, then get right back in the car, on the phone, to the office. It was a way of life for 25 years.

You’ve described your move to Disney as your biggest mistake. Why was your tenure there so short?

I don’t think Michael liked having an equal or the thought of losing control. The funny thing is that there was ample work for both of us, but we never got it right in terms of splitting up responsibilities.

After that and watching your new start-up fail to take off, how did you regroup?

Whenever I had a setback, Michael Crichton, a good friend, would tell me, “There’s always another horse race. Just take some time off, then jump into something that interests you.” In the mid-1990s I got interested in tech. In 1999 I was asked to be on a board. I got crazy infatuated with the Valley. My first year there I took 400 meetings just to get that frame of reference I used to have at CAA.

You’ve talked about similarities between Hollywood and Silicon Valley, but what are the big differences?

The scale is different. The entertainment business has instant gratification. You could pitch a television show or a record and have it out in a short period of time. But when you are working with the complexities of bioscience or self-driving cars, ideas take years and years to develop. Companies like Uber, Airbnb, and LinkedIn have taken years to incubate and to get right before they’re ready to go public or sell.

You’ve described yourself as a chameleon: different at home than at work, also inside and outside the office and with various clients. Why did you operate that way? Do you feel you can be more authentic now?

Let me answer the last part first: 100% yes. I’m in the most comfortable part of my life, particularly having finished this book and gotten all that off my chest. But back then I had an act. When Ron Meyer and I decided to get into the film business from television at CAA, we felt we needed to create personas. We decided to play good cop, bad cop, and I took the bad cop role. The chameleon side was something I had always done. I felt it was easier to communicate with people in the way they chose. If they chose to be soft, be soft. If they chose to be rough, be rough. It was an aikido move—to redirect their force back on them.

How did you get your agents to work together?

We knew that you could manage by creating competition between employees. Or you could go a different way: a combination of American team sports and the Japanese philosophy of nemawashi, or management by consensus. So people are invested in and help one another. You’d sit in a staff meeting and someone would say, “We have a singer who wants to do a film,” and a literary agent would say, “I’ll help.” He had no reason to, but he did, and we’d get a movie made. That happened with Prince and Purple Rain. No one said the idea was stupid. Half a dozen agents said, “Let’s try.”

I have to ask: Did you know about all the sexual harassment and abuse in Hollywood?

We didn’t know what we know now. We did deal with Harvey Weinstein, and we had no idea. And we didn’t have a lot of clients complaining about problems. When we did, we took care of them. But we didn’t allow clients to have meetings at odd places, and most of the time—in particular, with female clients—agents accompanied them.

In your book, you talk about having boundless ambition but also constant anxiety about your ability to achieve your goals. Was there ever a time when you felt at peace?

When we sold Sony to Columbia Pictures—a deal in which I represented Sony but had great relationships on the other side—I was sitting in a room after everything was signed with the investment banker Herb Allen, a good friend, and I looked at him and said, “Well, what’s next?” And he said, “You’re the dopiest guy. Why don’t you take a couple of days and enjoy the fact that we’ve just sold a studio, everyone got what they wanted, and we had a good time doing it?” I couldn’t. Within five days I started working on a deal to help Matsushita buy a studio. The anxiety came from being the operator of the business. Every day when you turn that key, you have overhead, so you have to run it, be creative, keep your people’s spirits up and the machine running and turning a profit and moving upward. Occasionally I’d step back and say, “My God, look what we created.” But those moments didn’t last very long.

A version of this article appeared in the January–February 2019 issue (p.156) of Harvard Business Review.

Moscow Chiks: to the conquest of the world

Moscow Chiks is a musical project from Russia, which conquers the whole world, and not only the world…The Moscow Chiks are the cousins: Luna and Youlya. Their associates not only consanguinity, but also music, a project which is over 10 years. They are two DJs, musicians and producers. They promote underground music genres in Russia, and not only Russia, such as techno and techhouse.

 

Before this job what did you do?

Since childhood we have been engaged in music. We studied at the music school: Luna by piano class, Youlya  on the vocal direction. As a child, we lived in the country when it was difficult to get a cassette with music, but we were lucky we listened to The Prodigy, Antiloop and others Like all normal people after graduation, we entered in universities.We studied very much. Youlya was educated as an economist and Luna as a lawyer.

How does the idea for this work come about?

There was a time when we were already DJs and touring each with our project, and then something went wrong and The Moscow Chiks appeared. What happens in your private life.In our personal life now only music, work in the studio, tours around the world, airports, flights, lack of sleep, jetlags, many people, party and our performances.

What do you like about this job?

Our work is not only self-expression. First of all, we want to give love to people by means of music. We travel a lot, we see countries, people, see how they live.  Recently slept on a cold glass at the airport of Barcelona, ​​it happened because of the long waiting time between flights. This also has its own romance.

Is there a place in the world where you would like to go and live?

We like to live in Russia, but this does not cancel the fact that we like to travel. Recently we arrived from Ibiza, we lived there for two weeks and have already gotten used to this place, although Ibiza is not the place for a calm measured life. But in general we like everywhere, the most important thing in the environment of what kind of people you are.

 A high question the meaning of life?

Often being in the studio and working on the tracks, we are immersed in another world. This question is very complicated, but interesting. We think that every person, and every creature in this universe, thinks about this question: who Im, where Im from, what should I do, right or wrong? All this is very difficult, but also simple. The most important thing is to live in harmony with yourself, do what you like, dream, love, hate, struggle with difficulties, the most important thing is not to sit still and not wait for something to happen in your life.

 

Lada Vesna: passion authentique

 

Photo is by Xavier Dollin http://www.xavibes.com
Photo is by Xavier Dollin http://www.xavibes.com

Une interview qui met en valeur la femme en tant que symbole de la manière la plus absolue, en tant que femme, elle est l’auteure de Lada Vesna, photographe, photomodel et femme authentique. voici ce que nous dit à propos de break magazine

 

Pensez-vous que vos photos, vus par de nombreux lecteurs peuvent changer quelque chose dans la sphère sociale ?

En tant qu’artiste, mon travail touche les gens dans leurs émotions et d’une certaine manière rend leur vie plus intéressante. De ce point de vue-là, l’impact sur la sphère sociale est concret, bien que je ne sois pas une photographe engagée dans une cause sociale per se.

 Quel est ta mission en tant que photographe ?

Ma mission est de simplement trouver la beauté dans chose personne et chaque chose.

Vos sujets, sont-ils impliqués dans votre travail ?

Cela va de soi, qu’une photo réussie implique forcément une implication mutuelle entre le sujet et l’artiste.

Quelle est la difficulté de raconter une histoire à travers un tir ?

Le hasard des regards et des mouvements joue une part égale à celle de la dextérité du photographe, donc toute la difficulté de raconter une histoire se trouve dans cette rencontre fortuite entre le moment opportun et le clic.  

Selon vous tout ce qui apparait sur une photo serait une expression consciente ou inconsciente du photographe ?

Le photographe est comme un miroir de ce qu’il photographie. Donc, ni consciemment, ni inconsciemment, tout juste naturellement, tout ce qui apparait dans un cliché contient une part du photographe et son imagination.

Parlez-nous de l’un de vos clichés préférés, pourquoi le préférez-vous ?

Le thème qui m’inspire le plus est celui de la spiritualité incarnée dans un être humain dont les traits reflètent l’expression d’une profonde paix, malgré toutes les choses qui foisonnent à l’intérieur de son âme.

Comment un photographe observe-t-il le monde ? Avec quels yeux ?

A travers son objectif. Chaque situation, où qu’elle soit, peut être un sujet de photographie. Tout ceci est alimentée par une recherche curieuse et perpétuelle de la lumière.

Lorsque tu fais un super cliché, te rendes-tu compte immédiatement ?

Les battements de mon cœur qui s’accélèrent d’excitation et de joie m’indiquent que la photo que je viens de capter fera partie de mes préférées.

Y-a-t-il des reconnaissances importantes dans votre vie ?

Ceci ne tardera pas, je l’espère.

Quand et comment as-tu découvert la photographie ?

J’ai découvert la photographie en tant que modèle, il y a de cela quatre ans. Ce monde m’a intéressé, j’ai acheté une caméra et j’étais lancée dans ce monde magique et passionnant où je ne cesse pas de découvrir et d’apprendre depuis.

   Qu’est ce tu aimes photographier ?

J’aime mettre la lumière sur l’âme des personnes, exprimée par l’énergie de leurs corps.  Donc, plus simplement j’aime photographier les gens.

Quel est le sens de ta vie ?

Je préfère parler de ce qui donne un sens à ma vie. Trois choses sont essentielles pour mon épanouissement, la passion que j’ai pour ma famille et mon travail, l’utilité de mon existence pour mes amis et mes connaissances, et la joie de pouvoir apporter ma brique, toute simple et modeste, à l’édifice d’un art qui me séduit tous les jours, un peu plus.

Emily Anselin: I love living

At Fashion Break Magazine we interviewed for this new issue a special woman, a reference for many artists and sculptors, it is appropriate to say a true living work of art, her name is Emily Anselin Vivo in Toulouse, in the south-west of France but Born in Paris 39 years ago, today Emily is a true professional of fashion and photography. His shots do not go unnoticed, when they have a very powerful and unconscious symbolic representation in many ways. Emily is one of those models who like to carefully choose her collaborators with work, in fact her boyfriend is a professional photographer. But Emily is also a woman engaged on other fronts responsible for the organization of filming, the relationship with customers and commercial development. And thirdly, I organize workshops or master classes for different artists. I organize my first workshop in June in Portugal for three fantastic French photographers: Martial LENOIR, Nicolas LARRIERE and Franck SONNET (Www.workshopnude.com) My work is my passion. I am so happy to work in the field of art. It is a real pleasure to be independent in my work. I organize my work as I want. important to live it.

 

Hi Emily Anselin can you tell us about the most significant moments of your
photomodel career?

Hi ! Thank you for your interest. I am a photo model for 4 years. The beginning of my carrer is one of the most significant moment. I began photos with Cedric Nöt, a french artistic photographer. We met us on an audiovisual project (a movie about customized bikes). I discovered his talent and I loved it right away. At that time, he worked on his serie « Lhymb ». I had to pose nude in the nature amid the trees and lichen and we should not see my face. This place is totally amazing.It’s in Pyrenees in France. The photo of this shooting was a success. It was published on web magazine and Panobook 2014.I loved to move in the nature, totally nude. Since this shooting, I posed nude in the snow, in the snowflake, in rivers with a very cold water, on rocks (climbing). We saw my body but we never saw my face. And last year, I met Gilles Defaix, an other french photographer who live in Lyon. He
said to me « I am going to shoot your body, of course ! but me, I want to shoot your face ». He knew that it was difficult for me because I didn’t like my face on photo. I knew how to put my body in value but my face ? I didn’t know. We worked, he brought me his experience and… I succeeded ! well I think (laugh) And the last most significant moment in my photomodel carreer is my meeting with my boyfriend, Franck Sonnet. He is a professional photographer. He contacted me for a shooting for one of his serie. We met us before the shooting to drink a coffee. This coffee lasted… 6 hours ! We spoke a lot and we didn’t make photos this day. I came back next morning (I lived at 2hours at this time). Our first photos are horrible !
Neither of us were concentrated.

How do you see yourself in five years?
It’s a good and difficult question because I am a woman who live day-to-day « Carpediem ». I am 39 years old and i already had a lot of life. My first job was riding instructor. I have a engineering degree in agribusiness. I worked more than 5 years in this industry like a manager. I left everything in 2004. After, I have been barmaid, trainer in management, assistant manager in audiovisual and event and now I am a model ! Today, I love my job because I do a lot of different activities and I learn everyday. I hate bored ! In five years, I hope that I’ll always be an independant woman in my work. I hope that I’ll work again in the art. If no, I would dream to have my restaurant or a bar in a warm country !!

 

What relationship do you have with beauty?
I love beauty of people. Women like men. Physical beauty is important in our society. It’s a shame but I think it’s easier in this world when we have a nice physical appearance. Beauty has no age for me. For example, I prefer beauty of men aged 40-50 years old than men 20 years old. On the other hand, I prefer beauty of women younger. Be careful, some women age very well but, unfortunately, wrinkles are better for men.For me, interior beauty is more important because beauty lasts in the time.

After reaching so many goals do you have a dream in the drawer?Yes, I have many dreams ! Dreaming is very important. I don’t know if I will be model again in few years but I hope to continue to work with artists as long as possible. I would love to become a writer or realize a movie. I would love to create. I hope that a day, i go to live in south America, Asia or South Europa. I hope to have a bar on the beach and organize concerts (I love music). I would love to work with animals or nature and defend them. I am an ecological girl since my childhood. My dreams change with time. I listen my body and my desires. I work to realize my dreams.

Is there a place in the world where you would like to go and live and why?
Travel is one my favourite activities. For me, it’s the best school of life. It learns humility, tolerance and openness. I would love to live in South America in Costa Rica. It’s a country very ecological and very open on nature. I love Portugal, Greece and Italy too. I would love to live in a warm country. I love sun and gastronomy so it’s important for me that I like food of the country where i live. I prefer to live in nature than in town. Nature is very important for my spirit.

What is your relationship with your body?
Today I am very comfortable with my body. I prefer to be nude than with clothes. I am a naturist woman so nudity is natural for me. Before, I had a complicated relationship with my body. I was a complexed child. I found me too fat with breast too big. My friends were tall and fine and I found me
small and fat. So, when I was 17 years old, I decided to slim. I lost 23kg. Today, I recognize that I lost too much kilograms but i’m fine, I am a happy woman in my body and it’s the most important for me. Today, I arrive to look at me and I find that I am a pretty woman. Believe me, it’s a big step for me. I am happy to have confidence in myself. Self-confidence is an essential quality in this world. And I have confidence in my friends if this quality turns into egocentrism 😉

Were there any hard times in this job?
For me, there are two hard times in this job : the attitud of model or attitud of photographers. I hate competition between models. I did shooting with several models. Sometimes feeling is good between us and sometimes, one of the girls want to be the most beautiful, the one we see the most. Some photographers like to work with me when we are several models because I laught a lot. This helps to free everybody.Some photographers are not professionnal. It’s difficult when we are a nude model. We have a lot of solicitations. It’s important for me to answer everyone but it’s a lot of
time. Some photographers are no correct with models. It’s not a secret, some famous photographers have recently fallen for models abuse.
Unfortunately, like every models, I was confronted with this kind of persons.

On what basis do you choose a photographer? or better, what features
should it have?
I am an exacting model. I choose photographers according to their work and ethics. I don’t want to pose for every photographers. With internet it’s important to take care. I don’t want to see photos of me than I don’t like or degrading. To choose a photographer, I have to love his work and his attitud. It’s a small world. We discuss with others models. When a photographer is not clean, we know it quickly. Model is one of my business activities. So I am not doing collaboration anymore. I accept only paid shooting.

What do you hope to communicate with your body?
I hope communicate sensuality, eroticism, strenght and girl power. My body is mine. It’s a mean of communication. It symbolizes the passing time,
confidence in myself and power that I have.  I would like to communicate the power of body at the others women. We are beautiful
and strong. Show it !

Would you like to write a book of your life and with what title?

Yes I love writing and I would dream to write a book of my life. It’s difficult to find atittle because I am young again and my life is not finished. Maybe « 50 shades of me » (laugh)

There is an unprofessional “photographer with whom you would like to
work?

I would like to work with a photographer and artist who live in Toulouse in France. His name is Joël BARDEAU. We have a project together. It’s a great artist and I love his work. He exposed in Arles two years ago in the Festival of nude art photography.

The meaning of life?
The meaning of life ? it’s simple : LIVE ! dare, share, travel, respect others people and do that we want. Ok, I leave in a country where my dreams are possible and I don’t have child so it’s easier for me to say that. We have one life. It’s important to live it.

Emmanuelle Mercier: free to imagine

today we at Break Magazine devote our cover Emmanuelle Mercier photomodel of French origin, Emmanuelle represents one of those faces of the romantic cinema of the 60s that of Jeanne Moreau to understand each other in a France where harmony and love reigned. Emmanuelle lends itself to a shot titled “FREE OF IMAGINARY” that imagination now lost in many ways, immortalized by Saul Abraham the artist seeks to enclose the profound sense of being, a picture in many ways timeless, an image where the unconscious is the master. Emmanuelle expresses the taste of beauty and says: I am fully aware of my beauty but basically it is an outward appearance, I am used to understanding people in their profound what makes a person really beautiful. Emmanuelle talks to us about her model projects and among these also dreams to make a long journey through the world, a way to know and to know each other. He loves keeping fit with a healthy diet and getting around on a motorcycle, I try to take all the best aspects of life and enjoy it.

 

 

 

Jasmin Shojai: Australian charm

Jasmin Shojai is not only a model, an actress, Jasmin is a point of reference for many women, an icon acclaimed by many fans of the web and not only … his gaze is conquering every day a large audience, sensuous, sexy, multifaceted, the his way of doing fascinates, conquers and here we interviewed him.

 

As a first question I would like to ask you the most significant moments of your career?
One of the most significant moments in my life was when I was awarded the national title of ‘Australia’s Top Glamour Model of 2017’. I remember getting a phone call a few days before it was announced to the public. I was absolutely overwhelmed but so happy. It was definitely a very happy moment for me. I have had many other significant moments including when I was on TV, and when I starred as the main female role in a music video. It has definitely been an amazing journey

What relationship do you have with your beauty?
I always try to be myself, I think it is empowering to have confidence in yourself. I have confidence in my looks and in my body

After having reached many objects, are there still dreams in the little house?
I have many more dreams. I aim to reach out and be published on more covers of international magazines. One of my biggest goals is to become an actress and star in major films, and TV shows. I am currently in acting school and training to become a professional actress. Which is a lot of fun, I am learning so much

What relationship do you have a woman as beautiful as you with your body?
I love my body. I am happy with my shape. I go to the gym often to keep fit. And I find that really helps me.

Right now you’re working on an interesting project can you tell us what?
At the moment I just came back from the national finals of a pageant. Just prior to that I was on set doing a photoshoot and behind the scenes film for my YouTube Channel, JSM TV. It was such an incredible experience to work with the photographer, the hairstylist and the film crew. The trailer is currently out as we wait for the full behind the scenes film. The trailer has reached over 35’000 views on Facebook. Which is amazing. With JSM TV we are working to get it further. It is kind of a Reality show which documents all my photoshoots and other gigs that I have happening. We are very hopeful that our audience will increase and that the show will potentially be on TV.

Would you like to write a book of your life? and if so what could be the title?
I would definitely be interested in writing a book. I suppose the title would be ‘My Story’ or just full name. I think something with a simple title would be very cool.

Is there a professional “photographer with whom you would like to work?
There are so many, it would be difficult to name all of them. There are many professional photographers around the world that I would like to work with.

What happens in your private life?
In my private life, I love to work and stay healthy. As of recent I have enjoyed cooking healthy recipes. And when I am not busy with all of that, I am spending time with my 2 pet birds, which I adore so much

A last question the meaning of life?
That can definitely be a tricky one. And I truly believe and know that we all have a purpose. As of recent I learnt a very powerful truth, and that truth is that all of us were born for more. The meaning of life is to purely live it, and reach for the stars to achieve all of your dreams

Jelena Chocosite: La modella dal cuore ribelle

Jelena Chocosite
Jelena Chocosite

Semplice e trasgressiva, pragmatica Jelena Chocosite lascia trasparire in ogni sua parola l’entusiasmo che ha per il suo lavoro. Modella, indossatrice e attrice è nota a livello inter­nazionale anche grazie ai lavori effettuati con importanti fotografi come TAJohannes, Jelena  ci racconta di ad una passo dal realizzare il suo grande sogno,  Una passione per  tutto quello che gioca intorno al Luxury e allo shopping senza trascurare il viaggio, l’esplorazione, la conoscenza di nuove culture e di nuovi mondi,  noi di Break Magazine abbiamo dedicato una cover speciale per una donna speciale. Ma Jelena Chocosite è anche una grande trasformista, una di quelle sempre alla avanguardia potatrice sana di quel nuovo movimento dell’avvenire, poi si racconta del suo essere, romantica e passionale, romantica   Jelena è una vera donna che ama tutto quello che la circonda. Dunque il suo corpo diventa un opera d’arte sempre in movimento alla continua ricerca di se stessi. Oggi Jelena apre gli orizzonti alla conoscenza ed alla sperimentazione ed qui che  cerca il suo trampolino di lancio per renderla famosa in tutto il mondo.

foto credit : TAJohannes  Instagram;TAJohannes

interview Arlette Bomahou

 

” Being different is an advantage since it allows me to stand out “

Let me introduce myself. My name is Arlette Bomahou. I am a 43 years old French lady living and working in Ireland since 2005. Born and raised in Caen, north of France. My mother is from Togo and my father from Benin ( West coast of Africa). They moved to France in the 70’s to start a new chapter in their lives. I was born soon after in 1975.

Back in France, I was always active and involved in diverse sports from athletics, basketball and cross training. In 2000 my passion for sports and foreign languages took me to Amsterdam. I was employed by Nike and developed my skills as an account manager. More importantly, I discovered my first love : weight training. We were fortunate enough to have gym facilities, a basketball and tennis court. This work promoted a move to Dublin in 2005. 12 years on, I am still enjoying Ireland and hope to raise a family here.

After 13 years of fitness training, I decided to put my strength into good use by competing in powerlifting for Ireland nationally and internationally until I decided to change path. My main focus has been to become healthier and fitter by losing 110 lbs/ 8st/ 50kg the past 3 years. I finally competed in my first bodybuilding competition on Sunday 8th of October in Dublin with NIFMA, Northern Ireland Fitness Model Association, after 11 months of hard work. I won 1st place in the Body Transformation category over 40, 2nd place in overall Body Transformation and 2nd place in Figure Toned over 40. It was a qualifier for the World Championship in Belfast, Northern Ireland.

I then competed in the World Championships with NIFMA on Sunday 26th November 2017 in the Body Transformation and Couples division. I came 1st in the Couples, 3rd in the Body Transformation category. for the Couples category, I was actually on stage with one of my dearest friend and mentor Giselle Minehane. It was a very special moment for me as a year back I had seen Giselle competing in the same event and was very impressed with her. I came back stage to talk to her and since then we have been friends and training partner.

My current goals within bodybuilding are to keep improving, learning about the sport and to take part in more events nationally and internationally.

My long term goals like many athletes who compete in that sport, is to receive a pro card with NIFMA by November 2018 and by December 2019 with WBFF (World Beauty Fitness Federation).

How do you see yourself in the next five years?

” In 5 years I see myself with a pro status as a bodybuilder, married with at least one kid. I have inspired and helped thousands of women to take ownership of their health. I run a successful online coaching business, and do charity work all over the world.”

Today looking at myself in the mirror how do you define yourself ?

” Strong beautiful inside out”

What were the most difficult moments of your life?

” February 2014: my trip to France with my ex boyfriend. I went to visit family and we had a big family reunion. My family was shocked by how big I was and how much I was eating. My excuse was that I needed to gain strength to compete in powerlifing. This was my second year competing and had already won a world champion title. But my family was concerned about my health and gave me couple of warnings during my stay, I was not willing to listen to them. I felt upset and frustrated, I thought they didn’t acknowledge the hard work I was putting in the gym but just focus on my physical appearance. I was convinced that I was healthy although I was overweight I couldn’t accept the truth. I am grateful that they warned me and told me the truth, I am much happier right now. We decided with my ex to do a stop at the Eiffel Tower before heading back to Dublin. I hadn’t seen it in nearly 30 years. Although I was in one of the most beautiful city in the world, I was feeling so embarrassed each time he took pictures of me. I had checked my weight secretly before heading to the airport. I found out that I was up to 114 kg / 250 lbs/ 18 stones. I knew I had to so something but didn’t have the motivation at the time to do it. “

Is there an important reason why you started making this commercial?

” I love to share my experience and passion for sport in general. I aim to inspire empower women of any age, shape and cultural background to go after their dreams. “

What do you like about this sport?  

” Powerlifting and bodybuilding are an empowering sports although they are different. It provides athletes with strength and confidence. For women it creates the belief that the impossible is possible. Lifting weights one never dreamed could be achieved opens the mind to an array of more possible ties.”

What does it mean to you to be beautiful? “Being beautiful is to being able to love ourselves unconditionally despite our insecurities. And love ourselves to the point we fall in love with ourselves.”

Do you feel beautiful?  “Some days I do some days I don’t. ” Do you believe in God ? or better, in other words, what do you think?  I am a believer.

Do you think this sport has changed your person? ” I have grown as a person and an athlete and have learned a lot from my mistakes. It also made me realize how hard you have to work to succeed and be ready for the stage. I never worked that hard in my entire life. It has increased my ability to work under pressure and break through all the obstacles which were in front of me. on the negative side, it made me self absorbed and obsessed about the way I look.”

Are you optimistic or pessimistic about your future?

” I am optimistic about the future and believe that I can live life on my own terms. Positive mindset lead to a positive future.”

How would you like to be remembered for 100 years?

” For having made an impact into people’s life rather than for what I look like.”

Awards won :

Bodybuilding :

– National champion title 2017 : 1st place in Body Transformation category over 40, 2nd place in overall Body Transformation and 2nd place in Figure Toned over 40.

– World champion title 2017 : 1st place in Couples category, 3rd Place in in Body Transformation category.

Powerlifting:

-World champion title 2014 : in Dusseldorf in Single World championship on Sunday 8th June, broke World record in division equipped deadlift with 162.5kg, Silver medal in unequipped deadlift with 167.5kg

-World Champion title 2013: in Glasgow in full power World Championship on Saturday 2d November (Squats: 102.5 kg, Bench press: 62.5kg and deadlift 160kg)

– European champion title 2015: in single lift Championship in Riva Del Garda- Italy .  on Saturday 19th and Sunday 20th September. Bench Press @ 67.5kg. Broke World record with Deadlift @ 160 kg

– European champion title 2014: in full power Championship in Belfast on Saturday 10th May (Squats: 100 kg, Bench press: 57.5 kg and deadlift 165kg)

– European champion title 2014: in single lift Championship in Gorey co. Wexford on Saturday 13th September. Broke World record in equipped division with Deadlift @ 175 kg

-Gold medal National Full power on Sunday 16th August 2015 (Squats : 105kg ,Bench press: 67.5kg, Deadlift: 165kg). World record and European record set in Age 40 category.

-Silver and bronze medal National championship single lift on Saturday 22nd February 2015 (Bench press: 70kg, Deadlift: 177.5kg)

-Gold medal in National Deadlift and Bench Press competition in November 2014 (Bench Press: 65kg, Deadlift: 175kg)

-Silver medal National championship single lift on Sunday 9th February 2014 (Bench press: 57.5kg, Deadlift: 162.5kg)

-Winner of strongman competition on Saturday 9th March 2014 (Squats: 105kg, Bench press: 65kg, Deadlift: 165kg)

-Gold medal in National Deadlift competition in August 2013 (140 kg)

-Gold medal in National Bench Press competition in September 2013 (55kg)

-Gold medal in CIT powerlifting competition in October 2013 (Squats: 102.5kg, Bench 57.5kg, Deadlift: 152.5kg)

-Silver medal in National Deadlift and Bench Press competition in November 2013 (Bench Press: 65kg, Deadlift: 145kg)

You can follow Arlette on the following social media

Facebook :  The beauty of Weightlifting or  @ArletteBomahou

Instagram : @arlette_fitover40

Twitter : @ArletteBomahou

Pinterest : Arlette Bomahou

Linkedin : Arlette Bomahou

Google + : Arlette Maotie Bomahou

Youtube : Arlette Maotie Bomahou

 

interview Gina Jones: my Italian Heart

Gina-Jones

Today we interview Gina Jones, a woman with an extraordinary talent, her smile has conquered many people on social networks that follow her very carefully. she is a nice, sexy, intelligent woman … his zodiacal sign is capricorn while his music prefers Pink Floyd..Avenged Sevenfold, Disturbed, Godsmack … not to forget his heart partly Italian as its beauty. we have dedicated some pages to this athlete because we are convinced that it is what she deserves what are your professional awards? Dozens of state, local and National bodybuilding titles in the USA Are there any major awards won in your career? I did my first bodybuilding show in 1983. I’ve lost count as to how many shows I’ve competed in. I came out of retirement this year and I will be back on the national stage. How do you see yourself in the next five years Personal Training and Fitness Empire based on my training techniques and knowledge. Opening my own personal training and fitness facility
Do you like daydreaming? I prefer to manifest my thoughts and my dreams into reality… my mind is always looking for new ways to create new things. Today looking at myself in the mirror how do you define yourself?  Alpha Human/Muscle Goddess what were the most difficult moments of your life? First 50 years..
Is there an important reason why you started making this commercial?: ?? Not sure what this question is what do you mean by commercial What do you like about this sport? Sport of bodybuilding and fitness competition I enjoy because it is an individual challenge. Each time I get on stage I tried to look better. Being able to completely control the way I look at any time. What does it mean to you to be beautiful? Being beautiful is Oneness of the mind body and spirit.. A fractured soul is not a pretty sight. Do you feel beautiful? Yes I do. I am whole in mind body and spirit. I wake up happy and I do my best to make others feel the same way and that is an absolutely beautiful feeling. Do you believe in God? or better, in other words, what do you think? I am extremely spiritually evolved. My father was a Christian preacher but as a human being I think we cannot truly Define God. I go beyond religion I go beyond the written word what I believe human words cannot Define.
Do you think this spot has changed your person?  I think the question is do you think the sport has changed me? Yes it has changed me. Weight training and conditioning again is a constant evolving state. It has given me confidence, strength, and strong character and integrity. Are you optimistic or pessimistic about your future? Very optimistic! How would you like to be remembered for 100 years? Living in Truth and doing what is right! Taking Being Human to an Alpha level last question … the meaning of life?It is a journey, a process our Spirits must endure to elevate and evolve. The coming together of the Mind, the Body and the Spirit and elevating that passed the human form.

, a woman with an extraordinary talent, her smile has conquered many people on social networks that follow her very carefully. she is a nice, sexy, intelligent woman …

his zodiacal sign is capricorn while his music prefers Pink Floyd..Avenged Sevenfold, Disturbed, Godsmack … not to forget his heart partly Italian as its beauty. we have dedicated some pages to this athlete because we are convinced that it is what she deserves.

what are your professional awards?

Dozens of state, local and National bodybuilding titles in the USA

Are there any major awards won in your career?

I did my first bodybuilding show in 1983. I’ve lost count as to how many shows I’ve competed in. I came out of retirement this year and I will be back on the national stage.

How do you see yourself in the next five years?

Personal Training and Fitness Empire based on my training techniques and knowledge. Opening my own personal training and fitness facility

Do you like daydreaming?

I prefer to manifest my thoughts and my dreams into reality… my mind is always looking for new ways to create new things.

Today looking at myself in the mirror how do you define yourself?

Alpha Human/Muscle Goddess

what were the most difficult moments of your life? First 50 years..

Is there an important reason why you started making this commercial?: ?? Not sure what this question is what do you mean by commercial

What do you like about this sport? Sport of bodybuilding and fitness competition I enjoy because it is an individual challenge. Each time I get on stage I tried to look better. Being able to completely control the way I look at any time.

What does it mean to you to be beautiful?

Being beautiful is Oneness of the mind body and spirit.. A fractured soul is not a pretty sight.

Do you feel beautiful?

Yes I do. I am whole in mind body and spirit. I wake up happy and I do my best to make others feel the same way and that is an absolutely beautiful feeling.

Do you believe in God? or better, in other words, what do you think?

I am extremely spiritually evolved. My father was a Christian preacher but as a human being I think we cannot truly Define God. I go beyond religion I go beyond the written word what I believe human words cannot Define.

Do you think this spot has changed your person?

I think the question is do you think the sport has changed me?

Yes it has changed me. Weight training and conditioning again is a constant evolving state. It has given me confidence, strength, and strong character and integrity.

Are you optimistic or pessimistic about your future? Very optimistic!

How would you like to be remembered for 100 years?

Living in Truth and doing what is right! Taking Being Human to an Alpha level

last question … the meaning of life?

It is a journey, a process our Spirits must endure to elevate and evolve. The coming together of the Mind, the Body and the Spirit and elevating that passed the human form.
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